Yael R. Rosenstock Gonzalez

Sexologist, Identity Coach, Workshop Developer & Facilitator, and Curriculum Consultant

Yael R. Rosenstock Gonzalez

Yael has been engaged in workshop development and facilitation since she joined the New York Civil Liberties Union (NYCLU) as a teen peer reproductive rights educator at 15 years old. Since then, she has served as an educator for children ranging from 10 months old to adults in their 70s with different organizations, religious communities, and most recently as part of her new company, Kaleidoscope Vibrations, LLC.

As the Associate Director for the Center for Ethnic, Racial, and Religious Understanding she developed and led events, workshops, and programs with an intersectionality lens. Due to her own experiences, Yael has always been interested in understanding the multi-level experiences of individuals with different identities and life stories. Yael grew up in a trilingual home with a Jewish father, Puerto Rican Catholic mother, Ecuadorian aunts, and extended queer network which offered the opportunity to experience multiple mini-worlds while figuring out her own place in it all.

A part of that journey was claiming/reclaiming ownership of her own sexuality. Yael wrote, and recently published, An Introguide to a Sex Positive You: Lessons, Tales, and Tips to help others on that journey and anyone seeking a positive sex life.

Relevant Workshops, Talks, and Presentations

• Curriculum & Instruction Research and Creative Activity Symposium (CIRCAS), Bloomington IN, QC Sexploration & Information Group: PAR Informed Peer Sex Ed, Feb 2020

• IU Bloomington, Becoming a Sex Educator - Guest Lecturer, Feb 2020

• Sex Fest, IU Bloomington - Facilitator Feb 2020

• Researching the Margins, IU Bloomington, Physical and Emotional Vulnerability in a Nude Photo-Interview Series – Speaker Nov 2019

• IU Bloomington, Consent & Yes/No/Maybe/Fantasy Sheets – Guest Lecturer, Nov 2019

• The Heschel School, Developing Gender Inclusive Sex Education - Speaker/Facilitator June 2019

• Queensboro Community College, After #MeToo What Needs to Change: A Conversation About Consent, Masculinity, and Everything In Between – Speaker & Facilitator, Apr 2019

• Word Up Community Bookshop Libreria Comunitaria, Getting to Know Yourself for Better Sex & Relationships - Speaker/Facilitator, Mar 2019

• Queens College, An Educational Forum on the Reality of Sex Trafficking, Sponsored by NYPIRG, Feminist Philosophy, and GLASA - Panelist, Mar 2019

• Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Annual Meeting, QC Sexploration and Information Group: The First 3 Years, Nov 2018

• CERRU, Sexual Assault Innovation Exchange, Moderator, Nov 2018

• Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Community-Developed Sex Education Practice, Aug 2018

• Queensboro Community College, We Too Talk About #MeToo: Why This Movement Matters to You – Panelist, Apr 2018

• Saint Joseph’s College, Bystander Training – Facilitator, Apr 2018

• Queensboro Community College, Becoming an Engaged and Active Bystander: How to Navigate a Complex & Diverse World – Facilitator, Mar 2018

• Women and Gender Studies Colloquia, Queens College, Role of Taboo in Our Understanding of Risk, Sex Work, and Health Outcomes - Speaker, Oct 2017

• Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Annual Meeting, Structural Barriers that Restrict CSEC and Sex Workers from Services and from Changing Work, Nov 2016

• Desiree Alliance, It's More Than Just About an Individual's Safety and Health: The Role Taboo Plays in Our Understanding of Risk - Speaker, June 2016

• Desiree Alliance, Structural Barriers that Increase Health Risks for Sex Workers - Speaker, June 2016

• Eastern Sociological Society Annual Meeting, Tools to Communicate, Tools to Change - Speaker, March 2016

Relevant Publications

When you have a coming out story… and didn't expect to Pure Romance Buzz Blog. July 2020

7 Steps To Next-Level Emotional Intimacy Pure Romance Buzz Blog. June 2020

7 Steps To Next-Level Physical Intimacy Pure Romance Buzz Blog. May 2020

Intimacy Tips for Your Most Important Relationship (You!) Tickle.life. Feb 2020

Queer Enough?
Protip: If you’re asking, you probably are!
Tickle.life. Dec 2019

Why I Care About Sexuality! Tickle.life. Nov 2019

Your Pleasure Matters so Sexplore! Tickle.life. Oct 2019

The Impact of Coercive Sex. Tickle.life. Aug 2019

An Intro-guide to a Sex Positive You: Lessons, Tales, and Tips. Kaleidoscope Vibrations, LLC. Nov 2018.

Middaugh, D., Donna Nickitas & Nancy Aries (2018). Policy and Politics for Nurses and Other Health Professionals, 3rd Edition. Jones & Bartlett Learning. Case Study by Yael Rosenstock: Reality Check: How an Education Justice Project Became More

Media Appearances

How To Keep Sex Interesting If You Live Apart. Article by Olivia Harvey O-School July 2020

Everything you Need to Know about the Orgasm Gap (and how to clos it). Pure Romance Buzz Blog July 2020

The Reason Your Sex Drive Has Taken a Big Dip—and Exactly What To Do About It. Cosmopolitan article by Maria Del Russo. Oct 2019

CERRU 2018 Innovation Exchange: Me Too. I serve as the moderator. Dec 2018.
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Your grandparents’ idea of a ‘good job’ was probably based on a salary and benefits — and 50 years later, things haven’t changed all that much. Business Insider article by Shana Lebowitz. Dec 2018

Interview with Yael Rosenstock, Founder, Kaleidoscope Vibrations. Youtube Interview by Shakun Sethi, Founder of Tickle.Life Dec 2018

Community Developed Sex Ed Practice at Woodhall. Youtube Interview by The Intimacy Dojo, Cathy Vartuli. Sept 2018

Community Developed Sex Ed Practice at Woodhall (5 min clip). Youtube Interview by The Intimacy Dojo, Cathy Vartuli. Sept 2018

Relevant Training, Certificates, Education, and Volunteer Work

• Diverse Bodies Project, April 2018 – Present
• DeCrim NY – Ally in seeking human and labor rights for those engaged in sex work, 2019
• Girls Educational & Mentoring Services, volunteer group facilitator in Latin dance & sex education, 2016 - 2018
• Institute for the Development of the Human Arts, “Re-Thinking Crisis: An Introduction to Transformative Mental Health Care” Certificate of Completion December 2017
• Center for Community Leadership – JCRC-NY, Queens Fellow 2016-2017
• Girls Educational & Mentoring Services, Sista Mentor, 2015 – 2016
• Mental Health First Aid Responder, Department of Health, 2016
• Critical Participatory Action Research Summer Institute Training, Public Science Project

Workshop Development and/or Facilitation

This is for individuals, groups, or companies seeking assistance developing a 45 min - 6 hour workshop.

You can choose to facilitate yourself or have Yael as your main facilitator.

Topics with which Yael has experience (feel free to ask about additional topics not listed):

Body Positivity
Bystander/Upstander Intervention
Consent and Respecting Boundaries
Desire, Pleasure, and Arousal
Healthy Relationships
Intimate Partner Violence
Participatory Action Research (PAR)
Partnering Styles (Monogamy & Polyamory)
Peer Education
Race as a Social Construct
Sexual Identity
Sexual Violence
Social Identity
Social Justice

Rates dependent upon project/program needs.

Curriculum & Program Development

This is for individuals, groups, or companies seeking assistance in one or more of the following:
Developing the details behind a new and exciting ideaDetermining learning goals and creating activities to explore and practice those goalsBrainstorming creative ways to connect your theme to an interactive experience
Rates dependent upon project/program needs.

Identity Exploration

This is for individuals seeking support in one or more of the following:
Developing a confident and positive sense of selfUnderstanding the many identities we simultaneously holdFinding community based upon new, emerging, or confused identitiesUnderstanding how our identities influence our world experiences
Sliding scale and barter payment options available

Sex Coaching

This is for individuals seeking one or more of the following:
Judgment free space to ask voice your questionsOpportunities to talk about concerns/thoughts/experiencesExploration of sexual desires/needs/wants-Reflecting on past experiences
Connecting to resources
Sliding scale and barter payment options available

Using the Five Senses for Arousal

For many, pleasure begins in the mind rather than the physical touch. In this workshop, you will explore methods for engaging, or restricting, all five senses (taste, sound, smell, sight, and touch) for exciting and steamy sexual encounters. Come prepared to participate and explore infinite possibilities. Within the workshop, we will be testing methods on our largest organ, our skin, and on a mixture of traditionally and non-traditionally erogenous zones.

Getting to Know Yourself for Better Self, Sex, and Relationships

This workshop is an opportunity to explore your identities and have conversation with others. Sometimes we don't realize there are communities of people with whom we can connect and this is a space to start that journey!

Social Identity and Bystander Intervention

Being an active bystander is incredibly important but what that looks like can depend on our own positionality in this world. This workshop has you explore your social and personal identities and how they interact with bystander interventions for your safety and the well-being of others.

BodyLove: Vulva Edition

Day long empowering exploration of body and self.

Goals of the workshop:
-Body positivity
-Increased familiarity with own body and comfort with those of others
-Exploration of sexuality through conversation
-Connection with other people with vulvas
-Confronting socialization
-Low-risk vulnerability

This workshop is a nude space to create a sense of shared vulnerability. The culminating activity will be a guided vulva show-and-tell followed by a non-sexual group massage.

Both the vulva show-and-tell and the group massage are activities that come from Betty Dodson's BodySex Workshop.

DateTitleLocationMore Info 
Saturday, February 29th, 10:45 - 11:45amLooking at the Fetishization of Latinas and its effects on Libido: Beginning with CommunityIndiana University South EastClick Here 
Tuesday, March 24th, 9:30 - 10amQueer & Trans Representations of Body, Sexuality, and Gender in the Diverse Bodies ProjectIUPI Indianapolis, IndianaClick Here
Wednesday, March 25th 7-9pmUsing the Five Senses for Arousal The Backdoor, Bloomington, INClick Here 
Thursday, April 10th, 11am - 12pmSocial Identity, Navigating Upstander Techniques, and Promoting Inclusive SpacesVirtualClick Here with code YAELWIL2020 
Wednesday, April 29th, 12-1pmCreating Change in our Gendered World: An Intersectional ApproachQueensboro Community College Virtual  

Get in touch

Thank you

Do you ever feel....

>>> unsure about what you or your partner want sexually?

<<< unsure about how to tell your partner what you want?

>>> your body just doesn't "work right"/feels "broken?"

<<< you don't deserve sexual pleasure?

>>> you don't know how to set boundaries or that it's your fault people don't respect them?

<<< you don't know how to read your partner's desires, boundaries, or limits?

>>> you attract the wrong people?

<<< maybe monogamy isn't right for you?

>>> you are not attractive, sexy, or handsome enough?

<<< you're unsure about where you fit in and if you are normal?

>>> or that you have so many questions you don't know where to start?

First, it's not your fault

Communication, boundary setting, sex education, and pleasure are rarely talked about in a useful way in schools and parents often don't have the resources they need to have these conversations. As we get older, it feels harder and harder to figure out skills and values that we missed out on as kids.

What Sex Coaching can offer

<<< more confidence in your attractiveness and in sexual and romantic interactions

>>> a realization that your pleasure and your feelings MATTER

<<< communication skills in negotiating sexual interactions

>>> a better understanding of self for finding compatible romantic and sexual partners (and community, too!)

<<< tools for setting and respecting boundaries

Sex Coaching Testimonials

This was my first coaching session on this topic and I really enjoyed it. Yael organized the topics really well (everything got covered and there was an awful lot!) and created a fun and safe discussion environment. She even showed positions and used anatomical representations for me to better understand. The best part though was how comfortable she made me feel while talking about topics I sometimes find taboo/embarrassing.

Vicky, 34

Me and my partner both found the advice given very helpful and very beneficial to our sex lives. I highly recomend Yael as she is very understanding and works with you to find solutions or possible improvements.

Ari, 20 NB (Non-Binary)

Yael is extremely understanding and patient. She listens to each and every question, asks for clarification, and makes sure you feel heard. I've never felt judged when speaking with her about sex and sexuality!

Marina Nebro, 26